Love is arguably the most wonderful feeling of all feelings in the world. It’s only just a day to the biggest day of ‘love showing’ in the world – February 14. A day when gifts are exchanged between loved ones. A time lovers reaffirm their unending love to their partners, families, loved ones and also the less privileged . And oh, before I forget, a time when young people who have
so much money no source of income go the extra just to impress their partners. Some go to the extent of stealing borrowing just to impress or show off. Others even suddenly awaken the giant in them, exhibiting exceptional creativity to the point of magically brainstorming and devising ways to break up (to make up later possibly) with their partners. In the end, some get frustrated while others who have the money to spend end up ‘winning’.
Let’s get this straight, Valentine isn’t just a time to buy a
Lamborghini super expensive gift, hang out in exotic hotels or make’ life savings’ threatening trips. I don’t believe you have to literarily sweat profusely, or lose weight simply just to impress or express the depth of your love to your loved one.
A friend sent me BB message asking what he should get for his partner, (even though I don’t remember adding ‘Val gift expert’ to my resume)… Well, all I could come up with was… Before I reveal my response, let me share a beautiful story of St. Valentine with you:
“A popular story of valentine’s day begins in the third century with an oppressive roman emperor and a humble Christian martyr. The emperor was Claudius II. The Christian was Valentinus.
Claudius II cancelled all marriages and engagements in Rome, as he was having a hard time getting men to join the military, and he believed married men, being emotionally attached to their wives and families did not make good soldiers. But Valentinus was dedicated to the ideals of Christ; secretetly marrying couples, not even the threat of death could keep him from practicing his beliefs. He was arrested and imprisoned.
During the last weeks of Valentinus’s life a remarkable thing happened. Seeing that he was a man of learning, the jailer asked whether his daughter, Julia, might be brought to Valentinus for lessons. She had been blind since death. Julia was pretty young girl with a quick mind. Valentinus read stories of Rome’s history to her. He described the world of nature to her. He thought her arithmetic and told her about God. She saw the world through his eyes, trusted his wisdom, and found comfort in his quiet strength.
“Valentinus, does god really hear our prayers?” Julia asked one day.
“Yes, my child, he hears each one.”
“Do you know what I pray for every morning and every night? I pray that I might see. I want so much to see everything you’ve told me about!”
“God does what is best for us if we will only believe in him,” Valentinus said.
“Oh valentinus, I do believe! I do!” she knelt and grasped his hand.
They sat quietly together, each praying. Suddenly there was a brilliant light in the prison cell. Radiant, Julia screamed, “Valentinus, I can see! I can see!”
“Praise be to God!” valentinus exclaimed, and he knelt in prayer.
On the eve of his death valentinus wrote a last note to Julia, urging her to stay close to God. He signed it, “from your Valentine.”
His sentence was carried out the next day, February 14, 270A.D. near agate that was later named Porta Valentini in his memory.
He was buried at what is now called the church of Praxedes in Rome. It is said that Julia planted a pink-blossomed almond tree near his grave. Today, the almond tree remains symbol of abiding love and friendship. On each February 14, Saint Valentine’s Day, messages of affection, love, and devotion are exchanged around the world.”
Back to my friend’s question, here’s the response I gave him – “follow your
And yes, that’s what I believe. A smile, a simple gift, a hug, could mean the world to your partner. And of course an expensive treat too (as long as you can afford it). Just express your love language the way you can.
While you’re caught up in the atmosphere of love, DO NOT forget to show love and gratitude to your family, friends, co-workers, mentors, the needy, and anyone who has possibly touched you life in some way – because feeling gratitude and not expressing is just like wrapping a present and not giving it. Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. Like Benjamin Disraeli rightly put it, “we are all born for love. It is the principle of existence, and its only end.” Oliver Wendell Holmes adds “love is the master key which opens the gates of happiness.”
Meanwhile, what are your plans for Valentine? Share with us!