A lesson Life has to teach you


I had just come up with the idea to publish a book.  I was almost rounding off my NYSC and I thought it was a great way to wrap up my stay and contribute to the lives of the young people in the state. My manuscript was ready and I was set roll. I shared the dream with my roommate and we danced about the idea came up with  great plans about how to bring the project to a reality. Basking in the excitment about having my work in print, a voice slowly whispered into my ears “YOU HAVE NO MONEY”. As much as I wanted to ignore that voice and command it to get behind me, I had no cash. Even my monthly ‘allowee’ was delayed that month.  I took a crazy step. I wrote down all the names of people I knew, who I thought could help. Friends, family, colleagues, twitter followers, everyone! I boarded a private jet to visit all of them put out as much calls as I could.  Even though that experience almost gave me bald hair, I achieved that goal. I raised the money I needed to published my first book.  I learned my first lesson through that journey – The power of networks (or say, the people you know)

Raising money for that project wasn’t as easy as consuming shawarma, but it happened. I guess it happened because I tried, because I took action, because I put out the calls, because I talked to the people I know.  At that point, I realized that the networks we already have now is more powerful and important that we even think. Life often reveals lessons to us when we try to achieve whatever we set out to achieve.. We fail because we tried, which is why failure isn’t really failure because a lesson has been learnt.

As we cruise through the journey of life, in our businesses, Ferrari, relationships, negotiations, careers, we continue to learn different lessons.

We learn not to compare ourselves to others. We learn not to judge others (before we even get to know them)

Life teaches us that it isn’t always good enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes we must learn to forgive ourselves.

It teaches us that no matter how bad a heart is broken; the world doesn’t stop for your grief.

It teaches us that that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for whom we become.

It teaches us that we don’t have to change friends, if we understand that friends change.

It teaches us that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

It teaches us that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.

Life makes us realize that our life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don’t even know you.




What is the most important lesson life has taught you so far? Share with us!



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17 thoughts on “A lesson Life has to teach you

  1. lizzy

    Clearly this person in queation didnt find it easy & at the same time didnt give up. Most times we give up on our dreams just at the thought of the stress we have to go through. This definitely motivates me on being pushful,hopeful & courageous.

    1. Emeka

      It’s a good feeling to know you have been motivated by this. Keep shining..

  2. Walter

    What has life taught me?
    Well, Life has taught me that to live is to expect the unexpected. That every disappointment isn’t always a blessing. That where Love is expected to exist could be a dead end. That what has been dismissed may be the origin of hope. That the little things not regarded could be the catalysts to the big things.

    1. Emeka

      Amazing lessons, Walter. We never really stop learning as long as we are alive. Thanks for sharing! 🙂

  3. chika.O.

    Life hv taught me not to give up.on my dream even if everybody says nagative about it..
    Never allow my family background to keep.my back kn the ground..
    To away forgive and alower who so ever that deside not to be past of my life coz he/she is not past of my great futher.

  4. Mr. D

    This is good. Life has taught me alot, but I will share one lesson. Life has taught me that you dnt know you can to do it until you start doing it.

    1. Emeka

      True. A real decision is measured by the fact that you’ve taken a new action. If there’s no action, you haven’t truly decided. Thanks for swinging by 🙂

  5. livelytwist

    Emeka, there are many golden nuggets in this post. This one speaks to me powerfully: It teaches us that no matter how bad a heart is broken; the world doesn’t stop for your grief.

    One important lesson I’ve learned is: If you fall, don’t stay down. Get back up!

    1. Emeka

      Powerful lesson there, Timi. reminds me of one of my favorite Les Brown quotes that says “When life knocks you down, try to land on your back. Because if you can look up, you can get up!” Thanks for sharing your lesson with us 🙂

  6. clarisse ndinge

    i love ds post like all d odas. ur pieces r always epic. what life has taught me so far is dat in everything dat is goong on in my life God is saying sthg positive n to hear wat He is saying i need to ask Him.

    1. Emeka

      Thanks for the kind words, Clarrisse. Great lesson.. Thanks for taking time out to share with us 🙂

  7. uchey

    I love this piece… Life has taught me that no ones perfect, we all beings with a past, so let’s not judge eachother so harshly! Kudo Emmy!

    1. Emeka

      Yes o. If we judge people, we have no time to love them. Thanks for sharing, Uchey 🙂

  8. Adaora Onyenede

    Life has taught me to match my prayers with action
    Life has taught me to take responsibilty for my failures
    Life has taught me that procastination is my worst enemy
    Life has taught me that poverty is a thing of the mind. As you think so you are. We are products of your thoughts, so mind your thoughts
    Life has taught me that the earlier you discover who you are and what you are called to do and stay focused on it, you’re bound to succeed!
    Life has taught me to be the best in whatever I do…in all you do,give your best,seek to know more, be a professional. Ignorance is not an excuse
    Life has taught me never to be comfortable with where I am. Seek to make progress on a daily basis. Break new grounds,keep moving, take your eyes away from your achievements
    Life has taught me that challenges are breakthroughs in disguise so never give up!

    1. Emeka

      Wow! Isn’t it amazing how life is constantly teaching us countless and valuable lessons? Thank you for sharing, Adaora 🙂

  9. ujuh

    Golden nuggets. Life has taught me that we have resources at our disposal everyday….we just need to reach out for it..

    1. Emeka

      I agree with you, Ujuh. Truth is, If we all did the things we are really capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves.. Thanks for dropping by 🙂

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