Why you must take control of your self-esteem

Photo credit:www.african-sweetheart.com
Photo credit:www.african-sweetheart.com


The way some people consume fresh corn on the streets of Lagos is worrisome. Some eat while walking, others prefer to sit and eat…in the middle of the road. I’m always tempted to eat the corn with them take photos for linda ikeji whenever i come across those wonderful scenes. Don’t get me wrong, corn is a good thing to eat, especially when neatly roasted and slowly ‘downloaded’ with fresh, sugar-coated, well sliced coconut…But to carelessly consume it rambling the streets or on third mainland bridge? I really don’t know… It’s probably fun for them maybe or better yet, it’s their choice. They obviously aren’t as half bothered about what I think about them.


This post isn’t about eating corn or anything like that, but what we think about what other people think about us.

People choose to clog their minds with what other people think about them and forget that nothing is more important than how you feel and think about yourself. When you always allow what people say or think about you to get to you, it practically drains your energy and could make you less productive.

No doubt, persistent criticism from other people, teasing and failures can make anyone feel worthless. But finding something you are good at can help boost your confidence and develop deep love for yourself.
…And when you love yourself more:
Life becomes simpler and lighter. They’ll be no need to drag you down or beat yourself up over simple mistakes or over not reaching a perfect and inhuman standard.

You’ll have more inner stability. Your opinion of yourself goes up then you’ll stop trying so eagerly to get recharge card validation and attention from other people.

You’ll feel more deserving of good things in life.. And so you’ll go after them more often and with more motivation.

You’ll be more attractive in any relationship.. You’ll be more stable and able to handle tough times better. Being with you becomes simpler and a lighter experience with a lot less drama, arguments or fights based on little or nothing. And all of this is attractive in any relationships, not matter if it is with a friend, at work or with a partner.

You’ll be happier…That has been my experience and it is why I value my own self-esteem so highly and try to keep it steady every day.

Truth is, what other people think of you is called “other-people esteem.” If it’s better to think well of yourself, then by all means, go ahead. No need to wait for anyone to do it for you. Self-esteem remains your choice and decision to make. Believe in your own worth because in the end, nobody holds a good opinion of a man who holds a low opinion of himself.



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14 thoughts on “Why you must take control of your self-esteem

  1. Walter

    I’m so guilty of the eating-corn-in-public ish. *covers face* Not like while I’m walking on the road. But perhaps, safely nestled inside the bus. Abeg, I’ma whip out the corn I just bought from the woman selling it by the roadside and munch-munch away.
    As to the general lesson of this piece, truly appreciated. Thing is, I’m really much to selfish to let the opinions of other people crowd inside me. I mean, like hey, I’m not done thinking about myself, damnit!

    1. Emeka

      Hahaha feel free to munch away jare.

      Well said. Truth is, to be happy, we must not be too concerned with others.

  2. Monale A. (The Versatile Nigeria)

    So here i am at the office, starving to death and waiting for lunch time to knack, and then I come to your site and see the picture of roasted corn. Why evils?

    Seriously though, we all need to hear this. Self esteem is everything. Being confident in/loving one’s self does not mean we have arrived/are perfect. It simply involves knowing that we are a work in progress, and with consistent deliberate action and thought, we will get closer to the people we want to be.

    Thanks for sharing.

    1. Emeka

      Hahaha Monale! Go grab some corn biko.

      Well said! Many thanks for stopping by.

  3. Mr. D

    Great Piece! Thanks for this lesson.

    1. Emeka

      Thanks Mr D

  4. asueiza

    It comes with awareness. We must all be aware of whom we are else we may end up living another man’s life. Appreciation. of oneself is the key to true happiness. Nice write up Emeka

    1. Emeka

      Self-appreciation.. I love the sound of that. Thanks for reading Asueiza

  5. livelytwist

    Thanks for encouraging us to focus on building ourselves up. I like to think that if I have a healthy opinion of myself, then it’s easier to have a healthy opinion of others too.

    1. Emeka

      Thanks Timi for finding this helpful 🙂

  6. uju

    The image of people munching corn made me laugh-read my way through the rest of this post 😀

    And yes, self-esteem is great. The best we can possibly give ourselves for the rest of our life.
    Thank you for this lesson.

    1. Emeka

      Thanks Uju!

  7. Chibuzor Ogbonta

    The importance of having a good/high self-esteem can never be over-emphasized.
    I am left-handed. In my younger years, I found it difficult to eat with my left hand in public because of the way some people looked at me with “one eye” and some others older people just signal at me to use my right hand. For that reason, I perfected the use of both hands to eat and whenever I was in public, I used my right hand.

    My day of decision came when I saw a beautiful lady use her left hand to eat “swallow” openly in a party, not minding what anyone’s fada thinks.
    There and then, I changed to my left hand for eating (but right hand for “swallow” though) and I have been better off.

    1. Emeka

      LOL.. I’m left handed too, and yes it’s crazy the way people stare at you like you’re committing a crime when you eat in this part of the world.

      Thanks Chibuzor for sharing your thoughts on here 🙂

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