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8 common habits you must control today

We all have different habits – good or bad. It has been said that we ultimately become what we repeatedly do. In other words, If your habits aren’t helping you, then they’re hurting you. there are certain habits that we must begin to control today. I have been a victim of such habits. These habits are simply the reason why most people live unhappy lives!

Below are 7 of those habits..

1.  Living with feelings of hate.

Martin Luther King Jr. Once said, “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that.  Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.”  the truth is, when we nurture feelings of hate, it eventually gets the best of us.  It takes control of us.  We forget why we hate, what we hate, and whom we hate – we simply hate for the sake of hating.  And then, naturally, we begin to hate ourselves too.

Everything and everyone you hate rents permanent space in both your head and heart!  So if you want to eliminate something or someone from your mind, don’t hate.  Instead, disconnect yourself, move on, and don’t look back.

2.  Holding tight to worries and fears.

Someday when you look back at your life you’ll realize that nearly all of your worries and anxious fears never happened – they were completely unfounded.  So why not wake up and realize this right now. 
Let go of your worries and fears, of your jealousy, of your need to always be right and control others.  Let go of your pretentiousness and your need to have everything your way.  Underneath all these is a happy, productive person.  When you start peeling them off and simply appreciating everything for what it is, life can be wonderfully fulfilling – trust me.

3. Waiting for the perfect moment.

Everyone wants to wait for the perfect time. Do not buy into the myth of the perfect moment.  Moments aren’t perfect; they’re what you make them.  Wake up!  These states of perfection do not really exist.
Your ability to grow to your highest potential is directly related to your willingness to act in the face of imperfection.  You will come to succeed not by finding a perfect moment, but by learning to see and use life’s imperfections perfectly.

4. Focusing on everyone’s story except your own.

Don’t be so satisfied with the success stories of others and how things have gone for them that you forget to write your own.  You have everything you need to become what you are capable of becoming.  Incredible change happens when you decide to take control. This means refusing to let others do your thinking, talking, and deciding for you.  It means learning to respect and use your own ideas and instincts.
If you want your life story to soar to new heights, you have to clear a path, reduce the burdens weighing you down, and pick up the things that give you wings.  Keep your best wishes and your biggest goals close to your heart and dedicate time to them every day.  If you truly care about what you do and you work diligently at it, there’s almost nothing you can’t accomplish.

5.  Over-rating the importance of physical attractiveness.

Infatuating yourself with someone simply by their looks on the outside is like choosing your favourite food based on colour instead of taste.  It makes no sense.  It’s innate and invisible characteristics that create lasting attraction.

There always an undeniable, magnetic draw that attracts you to the qualities of certain people, places, and things.  Sometimes it’s even the scars your soul shares with them that attracts you and even create the hinges that hold you together in the long run.

6.  Holding on to someone who hurts you.

Sometimes you have to walk away from people, not because you don’t care, but because they don’t.  When someone hurts you time and time again, accept the fact that they don’t care about you.  It’s a tough pill to swallow, but it’s necessary medicine.  Do NOT strive to impress them any further.  Waste not another second of your time trying to prove something to them.  Nothing needs to be proven.  Do not act with any thought of them ever again! 

7. Trying to make a huge difference all at once.

If you want to make a difference in the world, start with the world around you.  Making a big difference all at once is usually impossible, and the process of trying is extremely stressful.  However, instantly making a difference in a few lives is entirely possible and usually not difficult.  You just have to focus on one person at a time and start with the one closest to you. For instance, if you make one person smile, their smile might just make others smile too! 

8. Dwelling on difficulties.

A bad day is just a bad day.  Choose not to make it anything more.  Times of adversity will inevitably affect the conditions in which you live and work, you don’t have to let it affect who you are and where you’re headed.  Take note of the setbacks and adjust to them, but don’t expand on them by making them a bigger part of your life.
Every day brings new lessons and new possibilities.  There is always a way to take the next step forward on the path you’ve chosen!

What habits do you think you need to control? Share with us!

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12 Responses

  1. unclerave says

    A little bit of most of them, Emeka. (2 thru 8). And, I especially worry about #1 for a loved one of mine. With your permission, I would like to share this post on my blog. Let me know if you are agreeable to this. — YUR

    • emekatalks says

      Of course you can, Clerave. Feel free to reblog this or share anywhere else you wish. Just ensure you give credit where credit is due :)

  2. sofy says

    focusing on everyone’s story except mine

    • emekatalks says

      Thanks for sharing you thought, sofy..

  3. Naijamum says

    I am guilty of # 7, always hungry for change, quick change that is, and I have stepped on quite a few toes.

    • emekatalks says

      I’ve also been there, Naijamum – and it can be quite frustrating.. be easy on that, and watch the change you desire trickle in slowly.. thank you for reading :)

  4. Imasu says

    I’m so guilty of dis one… trying to make a huge difference all @ once… Even in algebra there r steps to follow. Thanks Emeka… For talking d talk

    • emekatalks says

      Everyone at some point is guilty of that too. its important you gradually begin to control that as soon as possible. Thanks for stopping by, Imasu. I’m always here to talk the talk 😀

  5. cocoblaq says

    I’ll have to think about it, Emeka.

    • emekatalks says

      no worries, miss cocoblaq. take your time 😀

  6. virtuousspirit says

    This is good stuff, I must confess! Kudos!!

    • emekatalks says

      virtuousspirit: Thank you for reading :)

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