7 simple things to say to your partner now that will blow their mind


Yesterday, I saw a couple arguing so loudly in public and it just didn’t seem right to me. I’m not certain but they looked married to me. I thought to myself, maybe a simple word or phrase from either of them would have made a huge difference at that moment. I strongly resisted the urge to walk up to them and slap talk to them.
If you desire a long-lasting relationship success, you must always be conscious of what you say to your partner. It’ll surprise you to know that these “little” things matter the most. Say these things to your partner today (if you haven’t) and see the difference.

1. What do you think?
Your relationship shouldn’t be a dictatorship, but rather a democracy. Ask your partner how they feel about all decisions big and small, from where to visit for vacation, to your children’s education.

2. I miss you.
Telling your partner you miss them through a simple text or word of mouth will make them feel needed, wanted, and appreciated.

3. How can I help?
Lighten your partner’s load by asking them how you can help when they appear stressed out or overburdened.

4. You’re so beautiful/gorgeous/handsome/hot!.
If you don’t compliment your partner, how can you expect them to feel wanted or appreciated? Tell them all about their strong-suits by saying things like:
Physical – “I love it when you smile, because you have the cutest dimples.(if she does have dimples o. lol)”
Attitude – “I love how patient/thoughtful/kind/confident you are, because that makes me feel ____________”
Attire – “you look so amazing in that dress” or “Hello, sugar… you look quite Good in that suit today!”

5. I’m sorry. You’re right.

Truth is, every couple has ups and downs, every couple argues, and that’s the thing—you’re a couple, and couples can’t function without trust. Making a mistake is okay as long as you’re humble enough to say you’re sorry and accept personal responsibility. Refusing to admit your mistakes, could turn what would have been a small misunderstanding into an eternal dispute that destroys trust.

6. Thank you

OK, now me which one you’d rather hear from your partner:
• Get me my phone.
• Hey honey, could you please get my phone? I’m a bit busy with something here, I’d really appreciate it. Thanks!
Big difference, am I right?

7. I love you.
Always say these words to your partner as often as you can. No matter how long you’ve known a person, I can promise that those 3 words will never lose meaning!

Is there’s anything you tell or like to tell your partner every day that isn’t on this list? Share with us below!


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11 thoughts on “7 simple things to say to your partner now that will blow their mind

  1. Naijamum

    Easier said than done, especially if you are married. There are so many ways, your spouse would tell you they love you without necessarily using those exact words,and I think I am vey content with those other ways, I am talking from the point of view of a typical Naija wife, in fact I would be surprised if my husband should tell me he loves me out of the blues, you know without any ‘positive provocation’ just like that. Oyinbo people that punctuate all their sentences with ‘I love you’ have the highest rate of divorce. All the same, it’s not a bad idea to cultivate if it works for you.

    1. emekatalks

      Interesting point there, Naijamum. Would’ve been great if you shared some of those other ways so other married readers here can digest them. I guess sticking to what works and what has worked can also do the magic over time. Thanks for sharing! 🙂

  2. Naijamum

    Emekatalks, be careful because I might turn this is into a post. It is Nigerian comedians that have this popular joke, that if a parent tells their child to look left, right, left again, before crossing the road, they are telling that child they love him, if they say do not accept stuff from strangers, they are telling her they love her, they care for her. My husband tells me he loves me by shielding me from the extended family, he foots all bills, he talks to me in public with respect, my opinion counts, he consults me before taking major decisions even in his career, he calls me several times daily, he sends dirty text nessages to me,(winks), he updates me about his whereabouts when we are not together, he spoils me with gifts as if we are still dating, he has organized surprise birthday parties for me twice, we still have a vibrant sex life after three children and almost twenty years. That is not to say we do not have our down moments, we do but things have been getting better with years. Now what else would you want to know?

    1. emekatalks

      Haha yea I think I heard basket-mouth say that..BEAUTIFUL! That’s a whole different twist to it – amazing how they all Uniquely have the major goal of strengthening relationships!
      You already ended up turning it into a post lol .. Thanks for sharing. My regards to ‘Naijadad’ and the Kids.. 😀

      1. DrFeelGood

        Naijamum makes a good point! And I really appreciate those tips as well Emeka! So as the prototypical Naija-American, I’m looking to have both styles of expressing “I love you” incorporated into my life. Also, you both should check out The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. Naijamum’s language seems to be “acts of service” and Emeka’s appears to be “Words of Affirmation”

        1. emekatalks

          Thank you DrFeelGood for finding the tips helpful. these things actually do make a difference. i just checked out the 5 love languages and I’d share them here ASAP. thanks again for stooping by, Dr. 🙂

  3. maryblossom nnedu

    So right! I’ll add learning new positive tyns $ teachin ur partner helps,plus tolerate sum tyns 4 peace to reign!

    1. emekatalks

      Awesome! I’m sure they’ll work for you, Maryblossom. Thanks for reading 🙂

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