Life often causes us to question ourselves, but not all thoughts that come to mind are beneficial for us. In fact, many can be harmful and misleading.
I must admit, I question myself very often. I’m sure everyone does.
There are certain questions that will never have the answer you want or need.
However, those are the questions that are possibly more likely to pop into our minds when we least expect it or when we’re having a difficult time. So, maybe rephrasing them could be more helpful.
Below are four simple personal questions you should run away from or better yet, rephrase. Little differences in phrasing as they may seem can make a big impact in your mind.
1. How Do I Lose Weight?
Asking yourself this question will only worsen your situation. I’ve had friends ask me this particular question again and again without doing anything about it!
A more helpful question is “What do I need to do to loose weight?”.
“How do I lose weight?” makes you want the results, and “what do I need to do…” makes you want the change. When you want the change, you’ll get the results. When you only want the results, you’ll often end up with nothing.
You must begin to think of yourself as becoming the person you want to be.
2. Why Am I Here?
It could be that you don’t have a good Job or a job at all. You just might not be satisfied with your current situation or whatever it is you’re doing at the moment.
Truth is, If you don’t like your situation, the only way out is found in solutions for the present moment, and “why am I here?” moves your mindset backwards, away from solutions.
There’s a better question that puts your focus in the present moment and that could be “Where do I go from here?”
Yes, You cannot change your destination overnight, but you sure can change your direction overnight.
3. Why Won’t Anybody Talk To Me?
Why won’t you talk to anyone else? If you want to talk to someone, it isn’t their responsibility to talk to you, but yours to talk to them. Every single conversation you have is either initiated by you or by someone else. If you never initiate conversation, it gives people the impression that you don’t want conversation.
A better, more productive question to ask yourself when you’re lonely is…. “Why don’t I go introduce myself to that person?”
William butler Yeats wrote ”There are no strangers here; Only friends you haven’t yet met!”
4. When Will I Eventually Succeed?
Nigerian Pidgin english puts the same question as “When i go eventually Hammer?!”
Many people are little desperate to Hammer or succeed.
To ask this question simply shows that you’re after the end result without caring about how you arrive at it. The “overnight success stories” you hear about are preceded by years of progress that you don’t hear about. Focus on becoming the type of person who would succeed. Focus on progress and you should find success eventually. But instead of thinking about success, here’s a better question…
“What small steps could I take today to move forward?”
Remember, If you focus on results, you will never change. If you focus on change, you will get results!
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